I read my book for the month in two days. My May read was ‘Damn Girl stop that ‘by Joan Thatiah. I have read one other book by the author titled ‘I am too pretty to be broke.’ I really love her work plus her books are so affordable. I picked a lot from her recent book and it was a slap on the face. So many realities were being dished in that book and I will share a few snippets that I found interesting.
The first one is paying your own bills is not a life achievement. This I found really interesting because we are encouraging women to be independent and chase their careers, which is a good thing, but it has reached a point where women are being vocal about it and forgetting that it’s their responsibility to take care of their bills. We are trying to move on from the old ways where most women were dependent on their husbands to women being able to work and sustain themselves. So in this new era paying your own bills is not an achievement it is just part of adult responsibility.
Take responsibility for your life. As much as there is so much pressure from every corner in this world sometimes people tend to blame other people or things for their problems. To some extent, there is comfort in blaming something or someone and eventually, reality will set in. We have to learn to be accountable for our actions and be prepared for the consequences.
Some things are not for everyone. This was in relation to marriage and children. Many women are still feeling pressure or being judged for being a certain age and not having a husband or children. People are too busy passing judgement on people who would prefer to live their lives single and childless and we need to respect other people’s decisions.
Do not make the men in your life jump hoops for you. This was one of my best chapters, the author says that if you are above 21 years people should be able to communicate with the current economic times’ nobody has time for games and it is better to be direct with someone than string them along when you know there is no future. The point I found interesting was do not be afraid to ask ‘what we are’… If you are spending time and money on someone, some things have to be clear.
I took so much more from the book and it has changed my perspective on many issues. Just go get a copy. I got mine from Prestige bookshop on Mama Ngina street for Ksh. 530. I am also on the hunt for more books written by Kenyan authors if you have any suggestions leave them down in the comment section.